It’s Friday night, in other words, date night. And if you’re like my wife and I, you don’t seem to have the time or money to be going out for dinner and a movie. Most of your time and money is given to work, school, ministry, social life, and kids. If you are not careful, life will get so busy that time with your spouse will be neglected.
My wife and I have been married for three years, most of which have been spent in seminary and working full-time. In my brief experience, I have come to realize that my wife is worth much more than what I can give her. However, there are five cheap but meaningful ways you can make the most out of date night with your spouse. Let’s take a look at them.
- Write a note. You know, a love note or a note of encouragement. The kind of heartfelt notes that made your spouse fall in love with you in the first place. This is a small gesture that goes a long way. We all could use a word of encouragement and appreciation. Take the time to write a note to your spouse. You will be glad you did.
- Do something out of the ordinary. Whether you plan to take your spouse on an overnight trip away, or an evening out on the town, do something that you typically would not do. If you always do dinner and a movie, change it up a bit, and surprise him or her. No matter how much you earn, set aside some money each month with your spouse in mind. Then, take him or her out for a special date.
- Turn off your phone. Or any other device that will distract you. If you sit in a crowded place for a while, you will see how many people can’t put down their phones even when they are with other people. Don’t let that be you. Your spouse deserves your undivided attention. For the benefit of both of you, turn off your phone.
- Take time to pray together. This should be a regular practice in your life. But as we know, when life gets busy, important things are neglected. Don’t let this become one of them. When you set aside time to pray with your spouse, you are showing them that they are valued and that you value the Lord in your marriage. Take fifteen minutes to pray with and for each other.
- Listen. We like to hear ourselves talk. Most of us do not have trouble when it comes to speaking our minds. We are so good at it that our conversations are often one-sided. The challenge is to take part in the other side of the conversation. Listen to your spouse. And remember, you don’t always need to have all the answers.
Life is busy and slowing down is not in sight. By no means is this an exhaustive list, but try these five ways to make the most out of date night with your spouse. You will be glad you did.